As an ordained Minister of Holistic Healing, I recently officiated at the wedding of a friend: setting a circle, calling in the directions and guides, overseeing the exchange of rings and vows, talking about love, and singing a closing song of gratitude. Afterwards many people, from aged grandparents to macho lads, were complimenting me, saying they found the whole ceremony deeply moving. It made me realize that if I could do this kind of thing once a week for the rest of my life, I would feel like I was truly making a useful contribution to this planet. So, if you want someone to set up a sacred space for a wedding, a memorial service, a coming-of-age ceremony, welcoming a newborn into the world, or anything else, please contact me! I am happy to go where I need to go, and will only require money for travel costs.
I believe that my ability to do this kind of work stems from my willingness to be absolutely present on every level. I’ve been studying the nature of reality from every possible angle since I was very young; my writing and my teaching reflect what I have learned. That can be summed up very simply: we need to learn to operate from a place of trust instead of fear. When we approach life with the openness that is enabled by being in a place of trust, we find that an infinite array of possibilities is available to us, and that there is an infinite source of guidance waiting to assist us. I help people to access that guidance by leading prayer and healing circles for all who feel the need. My key tool in teaching is the shamanic journey, which is an opportunity to get in touch with what I call the vastness of being: the existence of infinite other realities beyond this planet Earth. Most people experience a deep sense of peace and relaxation when they open to that, even if they have no words for it. This sense of peace (which might also be called love, beauty or joy) exists beyond duality, and when we can bring it into our lives on a daily basis, everything becomes easier.
I am leading a number of shamanic journeys in northern Ca in May and June, check my upcoming events.
I love being able to facilitate this experience for others. I feel like that is the work I was born to do. Please contact me if you want to host a journey on in your area. I am usually on the West Coast of California the northern hemisphere summer, and in Australia and/or Africa in the southern hemisphere summer, with brief forays to the UK in spring or autumn. I am always open to traveling to new places to do this work. Contact me if you would like to host a journey.
I act as a mentor for others who are on this path. One of these is Florian Kroll at vajra shamanics in South Africa.
All my writing–which is frequently called inspiring and empowering–is about enabling the reader to adopt a broader perspective on reality. My latest book, The Ultimate Guide to Orgasm for Women, out last year from Cleis Press, is about learning how to utilize flows of energy through the body. Allowing energy to flow freely is the basis of the art of manifestation, and sex is a very delightful way to learn how to do that.
I’m working on publishing Life, Lies and Sex: A User’s Guide to Being in a Body. It’s a study of the nature of reality, and how we can learn to choose what we get and get what we choose, which is the art of manifestation. Some people might call it a spiritual book but I am very leery of that word, “spiritual.” There is an awful lot of b-s around it. You can read the first chapter here.
I’m also working on a book about an English commune where I lived in my twenties, which I am writing with one of the men who lived there at the same time period. The last chapter is my version of what the future of this planet could look like. I feel very positive about it, but I see us being held back by the limits of our vision. If there is one thing I would like to achieve in this world, it would be inspiring people to think beyond that box, to expand our horizons. I believe our potential is truly incredible. So take off your dark glasses, remove your veils, let go of your cynical scepticism, and be willing to enter into an absolutely new way of thinking. What harm can it do?
To read my regular blog/column on sex and relationships, as well as other fascinating stuff, go to Dangerous Lee’s website. It’s been called “wonderfully insightful.”
My Sweet Wild Dance is the story of my personal journey from anger to joy, and it has been described in Edge Magazine as “soul refreshment of the highest order.” It won a Golden Crown Literary Award. If you think I am an interesting person, you’ll love that book. It’s an adventure story.
Sex is a metaphor for life. I started studying shamanism in the eighties, and have come to understand that sex is a very shamanic activity, in the sense that it is all about allowing energy to flow through us. That is what leading a full life and being oneself without apology is all about. From a young age, most of us try to block flows of energy so that we don’t get “carried away;” so that we will fit in, do the right thing, and be good people. Sex is the easiest arena in which to learn to let go into an energy flow, and allowing that energy to flow without resistance is what we experience as an orgasm. We can have the same experiences in our daily life. I have written a series of articles explaining how and why, which have been published in venues such as cherrygrrl.com and Kissed By Venus.
I am offering workshops all over the world, specifically on orgasm and more generally on how we take what we learn from the experience of orgasm and apply it to our daily lives. Yes, we can learn to live in a state of bliss, delight, and joy. It’s a matter of letting energy flow through us freely, which is not always as easy as it sounds. Click on the workshops tab above for more info.